Missy Ming, It is worse than horrifying. We are both learning about DID systems at the same time. Lots of thanks for this article. …..Is “spirit realm” the same as “Inside realm” – or is it different?…both have a “Twilight Zone” feel to it…. We cannot be whole and cooperative in living forward in the light of understanding if we choose to leave some of our selves hidden in darkness. Our problem is that we are not totally disconnected during the part talking….we are at varying distances – (sometimes way distant) – catching bits and pieces….we don’t know what is going to “come out” and it “scares” us…..we still don’t know if we are “making everything up”…..maybe it is “me” who is still “blocking” parts….this can be so confusing…..Yup! Not to say that she never rears up and goes back to her old ways, but I do not feel traumatized by her anymore. So why are they there? I will do my very best to present the information clearly, but there’s so much I want to say! They may bully or terrorize other members of the system, or even abuse them internally, so that it feels like the abuse literally never ends. So, thank you for showing me the way. You guys are all helping me to feel so much less alone!! introjection (n.) 1856, in medicine, from intro-"on the inside, within" + stem abstracted from projection, interjection.In philosophical (1892) and psychoanalytical (1911) uses, from German introjektion; in the former sense the coinage is credited to Swiss-German philosopher Richard Avenarius (1843-1896), in the latter Sándor Ferenczi (1873-1933). As an LCSW and LMSW exam coach, there are no defense mechanisms I get more emails and questions about than introjection, internalization and identification.Introjection and internalization are used pretty interchangeably on the exam, so going forward in this blog I will just use ‘introjection’ for the sake of simplicity. I am so grateful to have such great teachers about DID on this healing journey! a comic character, usually masked, dressed in … It takes time that is for sure. For the most part “Outside Me” “sees” it but can only “feel” varying degrees – depending on how bad the trigger is – but am aware that certain Insiders are more aware than I am…..not being “negative” here – just “objective”…..can’t figure out how to pretend it is not there…. I hope that you can find solace in the understanding that you have folks here who know what you are going through and are willing to help. Soooo – if it is punishing a part for a step “I” took on the Outside (I told something) – then it probably means it is NOT a part that is bottom-line trying to protect me, but – instead – a part probably put in by an abuser, correct? that constant struggle we were living in is gone. Secondly, I want you to know that you are not alone in your feelings of confusion, overwhelm, and worries of being unsafe. It took nearly ten years for one of my two interjects to come out and speak. Introjection definition: the act or process of introjecting | Meaning, pronunciation, translations and examples But it be weird that her can be big and loud now that shadowmean dont be in her face yeling at her all the time. Now, he has transformed into a cute, red haired and freckled little 7 year old protector named Asher. “Introject.” Merriam-Webster.com Dictionary, Merriam-Webster, https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/introject. You are doing great work trying to sort this all out. we allowed him to give every memory he had to one of the other kids who was part of the memory too. With gratitude, i know that covering all the things each of us experiences is and will be difficult, but don’t stop putting it out there. i just needed more therapy then was possible at home and i couldnt wait any longer to find somebody to take over from my former psychiatrist. How I think about it … my box of crayons are not uniformly coloured. And, to do that, I need to communicate with them, let them have their voice, hear with compassion and acceptance, see the wisdom in their ways even when I do not like what they are doing, be fearless in confronting their truths, be courageous in vulnerability and loving in attitude. constantly obeying was his way to protect us. the impossible can be possible, im discovering that every step i take and i so hope that i can encourage others to just keep walking. Our introjects can feel the same rejection, desperation and abandonment. She has the guts to leave her husband while all my other parts don’t. Copyright © 2021 Kathy Broady, MSW. Your writing brought tears to our eyes, and moved someone to suck their thumb. Her dont be as loud as him. There are two important keys to working with introjects. i know that as i read things here, its like clarification of what my T says or what I know is happening inside that i’m unable to express.”. Medical Definition of introject. For you all, the readers, that’s an important thing to remember. I saw it “punish” a little one the other day when I did something “wrong” on the Outside….What do I do with that??? This is vitally important for a child who is trapped in an extremely abusive situation. Delivered to your inbox! They don’t dare relax their vigilance or let you fall away from the old rules that were once so important. It’s free for you, but not free for me. But of course we weren’t, and she could see that we weren’t, which was why the abuse lasted so long. This must have served to satisfy her because the abuse would stop. Unfortunately, the more detailed I get with the information I provide, the less general it is, and the more people will find exceptions or exclusions that make them wonder if the post applies to them. Wren, who sometimes wishes she’d never cracked her shell. Maybe I’m just confused…. and focus aggressive energy upon this image rather than upon the object itself. But we dont trust her yet. now we just have to get the Bully on board. Rage and Missy and the Bully i think theyre like this. one of my alters was constantly trying to break away from me and the others inside. It is considered a self-stabilizing defense mechanism used when there is a lack of full psychological contact between a child and the adults providing that child's psychological needs. But, on occasion she has been very sweet and caring with them. We have a little one who is going through an incredibly difficult time of flashbacks and body memories. But, ignoring them will not make them go away. "Individuals with w… I am sure that I am not alone in my appreciation that you cannot possibly cover all of our unique circumstances. i know that as i read things here, its like clarification of what my T says or what I know is happening inside that i’m unable to express. I know these feelings well as do others here and DID certainly gives us all a LOT of opportunities to feel this way. However, I’m afraid this might be a hard skill to perfect. introjects take on the persona of the abuser in an effort to vigilantly maintain the behaviors and attitudes the abuser appears to want. And he keep saying why do i beshrinking!? Then, to hear the voices of others who are walking the walk and truly understand – well, that is a treasure beyond worldly measure! Cognate concepts are identification, inco If I did so, I would be no better than the abusers that helped to create her in the first place. We just so appreciate having another person in addition to Kathy who “gets” DID. Some mental health professionals believe that introjection is a protective strategy that children employ in order to cope with unavailable parents or guardians: By unconsciously absorbing the characteristics of parents, children reassure themselves that some aspect of the parent is present even if the parent is physically absent. These statements, and others like them, are intended to make you feel complicit in and responsible for what is happening. Sure does take one’s breath away thinking about it. WE had a GREAT YEAR! Or is it just my sister and me?…..Just being blunt here….or being “weird”… . i had to go through extreme physical and emotional pain to let that happen. It happened fast and I have no idea how. i learned these past few weeks that he just couldnt cope with not hearing any voices from the past, something we all longed for and worked hard for to happen for years. She would say, “You can come out of your room when you’re ready to tell me what you did!” This, of course, was literally impossible, for we had no clue. It became a battle of wills, if you will, but a battle we could never win, no matter what we did or said. Beautifully written and emotionally accurate. Being an introject is a difficult and thankless task. He doesnt swear quite as often and while he still loses his temper a lot, he isnt violent or come out swinging when it happens. I see subtle changes so there is hope! These parts can be very difficult to approach as part of your healing. She loves the Frozen movies, so he has sat and watched them 4 times even though he doesnt like “girly movies,” We just have a few left, the Bully and Shadow, and MK. Working with Difficult and Destructive Alters, The Love / Hate Relationship for Borderlines, Compulsive Hoarding and Dissociative Disorders, Videos for DID Systems and Dissociative Trauma Survivors. What made you want to look up introject? all he knew was that those really bad guys were still haunting him and that he had to do whatever to obey them. Sorry – don’t mean to sound “negative” so much….I “see” stuff going on Inside and am just trying to figure out why it is there, where it is coming from, what to do with it…but most of all – am I “making it up”?…..if I read that others get hit with the same type of stuff – then I don’t feel so crazy….Is this all a part of learning your Inside system – or am I different from everybody else??……. If everything else about your situation seems to fit, then the above article can still apply and be helpful to you and Anastasia. Some of them, who were so Angry and violenr and abusive, are now sweet little boys. Shadow, once he crosses the line from dark to light, will become Judah as his name. Kathy, I guess this leaves me a bit confused. Thank you for this article. Now her be mean all the time. What are synonyms for introjection? Freud characterized introjection as a mature defense mechanism that is commonly used by psychologically healthy people. It helps particularly when dissociative systems are not free or away from their perpetrators. In Freudian terms, introjection is the aspect of the ego's system of relational mechanismswhich handles checks and balances from a perspective external to what one normally considers 'oneself', infolding these inputs into the internal world of the self-definitions, where they can be weighed and balanced against one's various senses of externality. I may not get it right the first time, but I’m always happy to have a dialogue about the subjects in my posts. That makes sense I think I understand better now. They too are afraid of your abuser. They did not want to cooperate at ALL. <3. Ultimately, they are me at their core. but even if i knew then what i know now… i still would have done the same thing. Some things I cannot speak aloud even though I want to. <3 Great job writing this! She said to think of her as a danger sign. and this was though.. extremely though. However, a child’s understanding would not be able to see the manipulation. ‘Introjects’ are children who need love and care like any other child (part). This work is exhausting. Working on a better support system as well. I especially appreciate you saying – “there may be one line in a post that explains things none of us can put words to. I hope that this helps a little MissyMing. I am not sure if that is because I do not like the topic (i.e., that it scares me especially when I am currently in a six-month battle of understanding what I think is a perpetrator introject) or I just cannot sort it all out because I do not have a “textbook” example of a perpetrator introject or I have not met/found my perpetrator introject yet. Send us feedback. Introject alters are convinced that they do not live in the body they really live in. As far as I have heard, he is apparently doing well in therapy also. I’ve known some DID systems to be filled full of lots of introjects — some helpful, some abusive, some carrying out varieties of internal tasks based on what is seen or learned from people holding similar external tasks. Danger  was always near you and you had to be careful of every move and every word, because your very survival might depend on not doing or saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. Somehow, no idea how, he has transformed. I’ll be honest, you might feel some stirrings from within your system, so be prepared for that, and expect it. Looking like the abuser is common, but it’s not necessary. Psychology Definition of INTROJECTION: 1. Interject definition is - to throw in between or among other things : interpolate. just like we’ve done with all parts, we must help them feel safe, allow them to speak, listen compassionately, and show kindness for healing to begin. Just surrendering to the flow of the picture that they colour unencumbered by definition or expectation has created some masterpieces of understanding. Synonym Discussion of interject. I, for one, am just at a loss to know what to offer in return as the topic of “perpetrators” and “introjects” just confuses the heck out of me. Like all of us, they are parts. It seems like when getting in MY face while driving didn’t stop me – it turned to targeting little ones – OR maybe it had been doing it all along – only I hadn’t seen it before….I have seen groups of little ones Inside running in fear – but I didn’t know why…..I don’t know…..Any insight, anybody????? Abusers often give some form of twisted logic for their abusive actions, things like …. Thank you for all the comments on this blog! I appreciate questions like this that give me a chance to clarify. And it be weird cuz now he be so triggerd and so worryd and scard all the time and he dont be at all like how he usd to be, And it also be weird that sins that boy got littler and he dont be yeling and scaring everybudy then this other girl her be free now to be bossy and mean cuz judah dont be there to hit her and yell at her. This is absolutely the most horrifying thing I can imagine. That’s a big attitude change! Typically, most abusers don’t allow much room for kids to make mistakes, and it can be very dangerous and painful to not remember or “obey” what the perpetrator tells you to do. But rage he be acting different like not nice yet but he dont be being mean and that be a big deal for him. Everytime i try to make a new friend, there’s an uproar inside. Do your best to read through the whole article. 'All Intensive Purposes' or 'All Intents and Purposes'? I appreciate your willingness to help with the hard topics. Same can hold true for Laura and Kathy’s postings. But then… I am not sure how they started talking to our therapist, one of these days I need to discuss it with her…. I’ll keep working to improve my ability to communicate the important points in my blog posts. And yet the curious thing here with this new series is that Mr. Irwin has, Post the Definition of introject to Facebook, Share the Definition of introject on Twitter. this was a well written post and very accurate. It is horrible to have to endure. So be hopeful. Let’s keep it rolling! So, at some point, or at least we think this is what happened, we don’t actually remember, because those memories are blacked out, was that the introject part would take over and be able to express genuine remorse we guess, real sorrow or guilt. Once they have made some progress in their own healing, the introject who was a source of fear and confusion and conflict in your system can actually become a strong and helpful member of your internal community and one of your most valuable allies in your group’s healing journey. He gave her a blanket and pillow, and snacks. we all follow a unique road. This brings me to the second key point about introjects: THEY ARE PART OF YOU. I am approaching her as gently and compassionately as I can knowing that much of what she is doing is crying out for attention, help and healing. One thing also that has helped is that they hAve taken on new names once they change. And what do you do about it?? Holidays for DID Trauma Survivors… Making it Nice for the Littles, Getting Back Those Lost, Missing Chunks of Time. I think there are a variety of ways and reasons that introjects can be created, purposefully or organically. What is a Perpetrator Introject in a Dissociative DID System? That would only enrage her further, leading to more hitting, more slapping. Well, that is quite the incredible article/blog and responses. ….It felt and looked more like “punishment” for what I did….she was VERY scared…….Sorry…I am trying to understand this…. Well, i do know part of it. No harm done. Our Email Consultant / Forum Manager, Laura, has written a very good explanation about perpetrator or abuser introjects. I cried when I read how your fellow passed on his knowledge to others, smiled and now is gone. Thank you for your response Me+We….it DID help…I am sorry if I went into a triggering direction for you…….My “brain” gets the “swirly colors” metaphor and to take each part as it chooses to be in that moment…It is just a bit hard to actually DO when you find yourself putting everything (Outsiders AND Insiders) into a category of “nice” or “not nice” so you know where you are at – meaning whether you are “safe” around them or not….”Mixtures” are hard for me to grasp right now….it can feel very confusing, overwhelming and “unsafe” …….Your description of the “parent” one helped also….I think that is where I am at….although not real sure…. Description. All rights reserved. Okay … just a whole lot of confusion that I am offering you right now. It’s horror wrapped in chaos with a serving of despair and a side of terror. He does not seem like the same kid at ALL I somehow stay disconnected from most of the feeling of it – like I am watching it through a window pane – am aware of the “feeling” that is there…..I’m just not feeling it…….is that good or bad????? That happens. And it feel like they want to be on our side. And, that is okay. He has not left the little one’s side even for a minute. ……your parts asking about God gives us hope…. (psychoanalysis) parental figures (and their values) that you introjected as a child; the voice of conscience is usually a parent's voice internalized Familiarity information: INTROJECT used as … There are hundreds of articles and thousands of helpful comments. It totally blows my mind. Here, it provides the illusion of maintaining relationship but at the expense of a loss of self. For me, I have to remember that, although my most angry introjects are a reflection of my abusers THEY ARE NOT MY ABUSERS! 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